Who are you taking to bed tonight ?

 

It’s always an individual choice to select a partner or partners to sleep with, to choose the same or have variety in the bedroom.

There is a list of reasons to select a partner; attraction, fun, connection, kink, comfort, convenience or more but it also has to do with how we feel and what this partner contributes to the moment, mood and life.

In Mumbai we sleep with strays barking and wake with crows cawing, there is tremendous pressure from the beginning of the day till the end and round and round we go. We look for entertainment, distraction, peace, fun, a few light moments or some connection to get us through each day.

The concept of satisfaction once existed, there was the wonderful days of Doordarshan ( Chitrahaar, Spiderman and Malgudi Days was fun to look forward to). There was the good old days when letters were written and a calls from a loved one was worth the wait in hours, days and weeks. Where the postman was the most important man of the week, when that much awaited telegram was expected. Days when the feeling of protection in homes and society could be felt and gestures of love came with effort, sometimes sadly even at a cost. There was meaning in actions and words were not mere words. Small things brought joy and getting away meant switching the world off in a true sense, not placing the phone on silent or vibrate mode or a status just claiming so.

The availability of excess seems to have stolen the joy of simple things, after all how much can one stuff themselves; technology, data, experiences, gyaan, options, opportunities and exposure (the quality of which seems debatable). Since it's free it looses its value, quite like an opulent spread at a buffet table, makes the appetite disappear.  All this excessiveness either leads to addiction, frustration, renunciation or repulsion. 

Even miracles are available online and God himself seems to have become a marketable commodity, patented to different institutions.

Excess creates competition and comparison leading to wanting more and want is responsible for pungent feelings which when not met leads to all forms of outbursts. Thus leading to fatigue, mental saturation and an overall feeling of negativity.

Since these are challenging times, it's imperative to protect oneself from the onslaught of negativity, cynicism, pessimism and other adverse reactions excessiveness brings.

One needs to be careful before treading for one might cease to realize how deep they can fall down the rabbit's hole.

It's important to hold onto things that are close to heart irrelevant of being termed as naive, emotional, unexposed or conservative for it is these thoughts, philosophies, experiences, memories that we take to bed each night, that we wake up in the morning with enthusiasm and hope to take on the world.

If one sows mango seeds one can't expect apples, therefore if we bed negativity, excessiveness, lawlessness, pessimism and waywardness to that alone will we wake up and that is what we will take to the people we meet, the places we work and the relationships we have.

It is our choice what thoughts we want to surround ourselves with and those thoughts will shape the life we have. 

Hence we can't expect satisfaction if we are filled with greed for more and choose to live a life of a glutton with each decision we make.

The world is full of words, surrounded by gyaan (free advise) everywhere; online, offline and also recycled. So we have to be careful what we allow ourselves to entertain, impress us or direct our thoughts towards.

Be careful whom you take to bed tonight, for in the morning that's the first thought that you will wake up with.

Your thoughts everyday shape your life.

Since the present is continuous, choose to partner the right thoughts to bring value to your life not take it from you.

Your thoughts are your most intimate partner who is with you all the time. Consider that before you give any thought space in your mind today.